a rich relational life isn't something you passively discover. it's something you
consciously, playfully, courageously participate in creating.
It can feel extravagant to invest in your relationships.
We’re taught to spend money improving our houses, our careers, our bodies, our businesses. But friendship? Dating? Community? Love? We’re mostly expected to hope the right people somehow wander into our lives. I don’t think the most important relationships of our lives should be left entirely to chance.
The people around you change you.
They reflect you back to yourself. They introduce you to ideas, experiences, places—and other humans—you may never have encountered without them. They become friends, collaborators, lovers, neighbors, chosen family, inspirations and matchmakers.
YOU MIGHT FEEL AT HOME HERE IF...
You have a hunch there could be more—even if your life is already pretty damn good.
You want more connection, more people, more possibility, more aliveness—or maybe you don't quite know what you want yet. You just know you're ready for something to move.
You're curious about people. You care about being a good human.
You want to participate more in your own life, even if you've gotten pretty comfortable sitting on the sidelines.
You want to be known—not just perceived.
You'd like to get better at making the invitation, sending the text, going to the thing + risking the occasional awkward beginning.
You want relationships that feel reciprocal, generous + alive.
You're interested in becoming a better friend, date, partner, neighbor + human—not just finding better ones.
You're willing to get curious about your patterns + try something different.
You're open to being surprised by other humans.
Maybe you want more dinners around tables, names in your phone, people to call, places to go + humans who know what's actually happening in your life.
You don't need to be fearless.
You don't need to be wildly social.
You don't need to know exactly what you're looking for.
You just need enough curiosity to begin + enough willingness to try.
We'll practice the rest together.
LOVE REQUIRES PARTICIPATION
Some days, we spend more time consuming other people's lives than participating in our own.
We're connected, but not always known.
We want deeper friendships, bigger lives, more love—and we live in a world that makes retreat incredibly easy.
In Good Company exists to make courage a little easier.
The courage to show up.
To make the first move.
To invite people over.
To meet someone new.
To be seen.
To tell the truth.
To risk an awkward beginning.
To try something different.
Because the relationships that change our lives rarely appear fully formed.
They start with an invitation.
A conversation.
A stranger who becomes familiar.
A friend who introduces you to another friend.
A dinner you almost didn't attend.
A yes.
We create more opportunities for those things to happen.
Through gatherings, experiments, coaching, photographs, introductions + shared experiences, we create spaces for humans to know each other, be known + see what becomes possible from there.
We can't manufacture chemistry.
We can't promise who you'll meet.
We don't know where any particular relationship will go.
But we can create a hell of a lot more possibility.
Because love isn't something we're meant to sit around hoping happens to us.
LOVE ISN'T LUCK.
It's something we make room for.
Something we practice.
Something we help create.
Curiosity gets us started.
Participation changes things.
Courage brings us closer.
LOVE ISN'T LUCK
Let's audit your surface area for luck.
You want love.
But how many opportunities does your actual life create for it to find you?
Who are you meeting?
Where are you going?
Who knows you're looking?
What rooms are you in?
What invitations are you saying yes to—or making yourself?
Where are you participating, and where are you waiting?
Bring me your dating life.
We'll look at the whole ecosystem around it: your people, places, patterns, apps, habits + opportunities.
We'll notice what’s working, where you might be stuck + possibilities you might be too close to see.
Then we'll choose one experiment to increase your surface area for luck.
Maybe we change who you're meeting.
Where you're meeting them.
How you're using the apps.
Who in your orbit knows what you want.
Or how you're showing up when possibility appears.
You don't need a 47-step dating strategy.
You need something worth trying.
Try something. Gather data. See what happens.
LOVE ISN'T LUCK.
But we can create a hell of a lot more opportunities for it to happen.
kind words from kind humans
RACHEL JOY BAREHL
Woo • Maximizer • Activator • Positivity • Connectedness
Enneagram 7 • ENFP • Reflector
Relationship architect • Community builder • Photographer
Deeply relational • Wildly experimental
Sees patterns in people • Sees possibilities between them
Loves a big idea • Believes in small rooms
Will absolutely talk to strangers • Would rather gather than network
Dating anthropologist • Professional “what if we tried this?”
Believes humans are portals • Trusts that one introduction can change a life
Humans are portals.
When you change the humans you have access to, you change what becomes possible.
That’s the work I care about.
Not manufacturing chemistry. Not promising you a best friend or partner by Tuesday. Not collecting hundreds of people in a room and calling it community.
I create conditions.
More proximity. More repetition. More shared experiences. More honest conversations. More opportunities to practice being the kind of human who can create, recognize and sustain the relationships you say you want.
Because your relational life isn’t only about whether you find “your person.”
It shapes who gets invited to dinner. Who you call when life falls apart. Who celebrates with you. Who challenges you. Who introduces you to someone you never would have met. Who helps raise your kids. Who sits beside you at the hospital. Who makes an ordinary Tuesday feel like a life you’re glad to be living.
So yes. I think investing in a life rich with love + community is worth it.
Maybe especially because no one can guarantee exactly what will come from it.
That’s the trust fall.
Come participate.
x, Rachel
WAYS TO WORK + PLAY WITH ME
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COMING SOON!
What if dating wasn't something to win, solve or get right?
What if you treated it like fieldwork?
Get curious. Run experiments. Gather data. Notice patterns. Learn yourself. Learn humans.
Come explore the idea with me + check out my FIELD NOTES—the things I'm noticing, testing, questioning + learning about dating as I go.
As the field notes grow more elaborate, strange + astounding, you'll always have access. :)
Consider yourself part of the research.
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$250 • one session
$1,000 • five sessionsBring me your dating life.
We'll audit what's happening—what's working, where you're getting stuck, what you keep repeating, what might be missing—and identify one meaningful tweak or experiment to try next.
Then go live your life.
Try the thing. Gather some data. Come back when you want another set of eyes.
A dating-life audit + your next experiment.
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A five-month relational immersion • $5,555
What happens when you give your relational life an actual season of your attention?
Not because something is wrong.
Because you're ready for more.
More humans. More practice. More invitations. More ways of seeing yourself. More chances to be surprised.
For five months, we're going to make your world bigger + pay very close attention to what happens.
WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT
HUMAN REFLECTORS
I’ll bring thoughtfully chosen humans into your orbit.
Not necessarily dates. Not evaluations.
Mirrors. Expanders. Different perspectives.
People who might see something in you, introduce you to something, challenge an assumption or open a door neither of us could have predicted.
DATES IN THE WILD
We're getting you out of your head and into your actual life.
Dates. Invitations. Experiments. Conversations with strangers. Trying the thing you normally wouldn't.
Some will be romantic. Some won't.
Some might be wonderful. Some might be awkward as hell.
It's all fieldwork.
BEING SEEN
You'll get in front of my camera along the way.
Not because you need a perfectly polished dating profile.
Because there is something powerful about seeing yourself clearly—and having someone else witness it too.
We'll make photographs that feel like evidence of a life being lived.
PRACTICE SPACES
You'll have access to the rooms I'm creating.
Gatherings. Field trips. Dinners. Conversations. Adventures. Experiments. New humans.
Places to practice curiosity, invitation, vulnerability, discernment, receiving, contributing + being known.
We're increasing your surface area for serendipity.
ME, IN YOUR CORNER
We'll stay in conversation throughout the season.
I'll notice patterns. Ask questions. Reflect things back. Help you make moves. Debrief what happened. Nudge you toward the experiment you're avoiding.
Sometimes I'll have an idea.
Sometimes I'll introduce you to someone.
Sometimes I'll tell you to send the text.
Sometimes I'll tell you to leave it alone.
We're paying attention together.
This isn't matchmaking.
It isn't a photography package.
It isn't coaching where we spend five months talking about the life you wish you were living.
We're going to go live it.
We don't know exactly where this relationship—or this season—is going yet.
Good.
Bring me your curiosity + willingness.
Let's see what happens when you're wildly in season.
$5,555
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TRUSTFALL
$550/month
Come into the experiment.
For humans who don't just want to talk about making their lives bigger.
You want to live differently.
More people to know. More places to go. More shared experiences. More opportunities to become familiar instead of staying strangers.
Field trips. Dinners. Bonfires. Adventures. Introductions. Experiments. Invitations. Surprise + delight.
I create the conditions for humans to keep crossing paths—and then we see what happens.
Friendships form. Numbers get exchanged. Invitations happen. Someone dates. Someone finds a collaborator. Someone becomes your Tuesday-night dinner person.
Maybe your world simply gets a little bigger, warmer + more connected.
I can't manufacture relationships.
I can create a hell of a lot more opportunities for them to happen.
That's the trust fall.
Come participate.