Date Differently
We’d love to be your partner in finding your partner.
We help humans find each other.
MINDFUL
CONNECTIONS
FOR MODERN
TIMES
Without burning out, performing, or settling.
This is relational support for people who are thoughtful, self-aware, and tired of treating dating like a second job.
I help you slow down, get clear, and become more available for the kind of partnership that actually fits your life.
What I actually do
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What I actually do 〰️
I offer relational orientation, visibility, and discernment.
That means:
Someone who helps you make sense of patterns instead of repeating them
Someone who sees you clearly and reflects you accurately
Someone who is actively out in the world, meeting people, noticing chemistry, and sourcing connection — so you don’t have to carry it all alone
Think of this less as “dating help”
and more like having a steady, attuned guide while you’re doing something vulnerable and meaningful.
This work is for people who are oriented toward growth.
And enjoy being supported along the way.
This work is for people who are curious about themselves and others.
Willing to reflect. Open to feedback.
Interested in learning—not just being chosen.
It’s for those who:
Feel out of step with swipe culture
Are tired of performing or over-explaining themselves
Want relationships that are mutual, reciprocal, grounded, and alive
Believe connection is something you practice, not hack
Are ready to take responsibility for their patterns without shame
You don’t need to be “fully healed.” You don’t need to have all the answers.
You do need a willingness to look honestly at how you show up—and to stay present long enough for something real to grow.
If you’re seeking depth over spectacle, clarity over chaos, and support that meets you with care and truth, you’re in the right place.
Ways People Work With Me
Get Clear
Orientation, reflection, discernment
Clarity / Orientation Sessions
Connection doula support
Naming patterns, seasons, and next steps
This is about slowing down and getting honest—without pressure to decide anything yet.
Be Seen
Visibility, presence, first impressions
Interviews & conversations
Photos & videography
Image consulting & styling guidance
Mock dates with feedback
This work helps you show up in ways that feel aligned, natural, and true—so the right people can actually recognize you.
Get Practice
Embodied learning, not theory
Mock dates
Group activities and gatherings
Low-pressure spaces to practice connection, curiosity, and boundaries
Because insight alone doesn’t change patterns—practice does.
Be Supported
Thoughtful introductions, real discernment
Introductions to people who align with your values
Attention to compatibility beyond surface traits
Support in navigating early connection with care
This is where proximity meets possibility.
Continued Support
Ongoing care while you’re dating
Date concierge support
Date debriefs
Discernment help when things feel unclear or tender
Someone steady in your corner while you stay open.
Doors To Enter
Join the Rolodex
Complimentary
A confidential profile that helps me get to know you—how you move through the world, what you value, and the kind of connection you’re open to. Joining the Rolodex doesn’t commit you to anything. Over time, it allows me to notice alignment and reach out if there’s a thoughtful reason to connect.
Clarity / Orientation Session —
$75
A focused, one-on-one orientation. We’ll clarify what you’re navigating, identify the kind of support that would actually serve you, and discern—together—whether my work is the right next step.
7-Day Dating Differently Reset
$88
A seven-day digital reset designed to help you slow down, get honest about how you’re showing up, and reconnect with what you actually want in dating. Through short prompts and practical reflections, you’ll explore desire, patterns, and self-trust—so you can move toward connection with more intention, ease, and clarity.
MY ROLE IN ALL OF THIS
I spend my life going finding gems —
so you can take care of you.
I notice people.
I notice dynamics.
I pay attention where others rush.
This work isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about helping you stand in your own clarity long enough for real connection to find you.
In Good Company is re-humanizing modern dating.
Helping Humans Find Each Other
Something that’s always come naturally. Hosting house concerts, poetry readings, group dinners, parties, and walks. When we see a connection, we do what we can to make it and make it fun.
“Last year, I had accepted being single as my fate. I was done. And now—here I am, in something completely different. I went from believing there was nobody for me to realizing I’m deeply, profoundly loved” -Dan
You might be wondering, who is this human? And why does she want me to join her rolodex? That’s fair.
Super-connector.
Community Architect.
Connection Doula.
Dating Strategist.
Rachel Joy Barehl has a rare ability to see what’s most true and compelling in a person—and to reflect it back with care. For those navigating dating and relationships, she offers clarity, confidence, and a steadier way of showing up—so connection feels grounded rather than performative.
In her wider orbit, she’s known for creating spaces where people can be curious, imperfect, and fully themselves—where honesty and joy are welcome, and belonging grows over time. She brings a calm, attuned presence to her work, and holds a deep belief that dating can feel good again—and that the way we learn to relate, with ourselves and with each other, quietly shapes the world around us.
We are currently evolving. Offerings will shift as we blossom.
If this piques your interest, let’s talk.
This work is a little outside the box—and you may not yet know if it’s for you, or if I’m the right person to support you. That’s not a problem. That’s exactly what this space is for.
This is a focused, one-on-one conversation to slow down, get oriented, and name what’s actually happening in your relational world. You’ll have room to ask questions. I’ll share how I work. Together, we’ll see what kind of support would help you move forward with more clarity and self-trust.
This session is about discernment, not commitment.
While it may open the door to future work together, it does not include ongoing coaching, matchmaking, profile creation, or personal introductions. My role here isn’t to convince you of anything—it’s to help you see more clearly so you can choose your next steps from a grounded place.
Over the past decade, we’ve worked with hundreds of individuals, couples, and communities as matchmakers, relationship guides, photographers, and space-holders—supporting people through love, heartbreak, reinvention, and the quiet bravery it takes to be seen again.
Our work lives at the intersection of clarity, connection, and courage. We don’t just help people date—we help them understand their patterns, soften their defenses, and show up with more honesty, discernment, and self-trust. The result is relationships that are reciprocal, grounded, and deeply alive.
We’re the founders of In Good Company—a relational practice for people who are tired of swipe culture and hungry for something more human. This work treats connection as something we practice, not perform.
Our training as photographers shaped how we work today: attuned, observant, and grounded in what’s real. We learned early on that being truly witnessed can shift how people see themselves—and how they show up in relationship.
Our clients are often accomplished, big-hearted, and a little disillusioned. They’ve built full lives—and now want partnership that expands them rather than drains them. We help them move from confusion to clarity, from striving to choosing, from “Why hasn’t this worked yet?” to “Oh. This is what alignment feels like.”
We do this work together, as partners and spouses of more than a decade. Adam brings a steady, grounding presence as a massage therapist and nervous-system whisperer; Rachel brings deep relational insight and discernment. Love isn’t theoretical for us—it’s practiced daily, imperfectly, with care.
When we’re not hosting gatherings, coaching clients, or making thoughtful introductions, you’ll find us cooking for a crowded table, playing board games with friends, cleaning up messes, or looking up at the moon—remembering that timing, trust, and tenderness matter.
Long story short: we’re not here to optimize you for an algorithm. We’re here to help you build a life—and relationships—that feel steady, reciprocal, and better together.
If you’re ready to stop dating on autopilot and start choosing with intention, you’re in the right place.